For some reason, we can accept the aging process in people, but when we see it in our cats and dogs, it can become a severe emotional problem. I believe it’s important to stand back a bit from your emotions and gain some perspective on what is actually going on. I will try to give you my views, which are based on many years as a veterinarian and my recent focus on the elderly, the aging process and what is occurring as they near the end of life. It is important to note that some of these opinions and observations are not well known or accepted in the veterinary community or in the general pet care population. 

Cats are unique in their attachment to their environment. I call them “place attachers.” In contrast, dogs are “people attachers.” Dogs focus on their caretakers.

Cats are territorial and the home, or where ever they inhabit, is their comfort zone. Any change to their habitat upsets the stability they have to this attachment. As much as we would like to think differently, we people are just litter mates in our kitty’s minds. We are also part of “their” environment. They get used to us being there and if we leave, that can be stressful to them.

Cats are also extremely “self protective” and they want to stay alive at all costs. Any change in their territory is a  threat to their existence. Of course, every cat is different in their ability to accept change. Understanding this built-in protective mechanism may help you to understand why they hate going to the veterinary office. Being put in a carrier, driving in the car and then being handled, poked and prodded by strangers is not a comforting thing for most cats. 

Cats are also incredibly good at dealing with the aging process as they are adaptive creatures and not emotional about it. They know how to take care of themselves during the “living” process and are equally good at the “dying” process.